Nearly two weeks before Bryan Abasolo filed for divorce from Rachel Lindsay, the former The Bachelorette star shared insight into their four-year marriage, admitting that their work schedules often conflict.

“Bryan and I live totally different lives,” Rachel said on Dec. 21 episode of fellow Bachelor Nation star Nick Viall’s The Viall Files podcast, explaining why she and Bryan rarely post about their relationship on social media. “We’re just in two totally different places, so there’s not a lot of time to take pictures of each other and show what we’re doing.”

Another reason why Rachel Lindsay became so private about her marriage? “I did that because people were so critical to us when we came off the show,” said the 38-year-old, who met and got engaged to Bryan during the 2017 season of The Bachelorette. “I just was like, ‘I just want to keep this for ourselves.’ So, when I want to share something, I do.”

As Rachel Lindsay noted, “Marriage has its ups and downs, but you never know when we’re good or when we’re not because we really just don’t put it out there. That’s just kind of always been us.”

Elsewhere in the podcast, the attorney also confessed that she and Bryan, a chiropractic practitioner, “don’t work well together.”

“I commend you guys,” she told Nick and his fiancée Natalie Joy, who cohosted the episode. “Not every couple can do that.”

And since leaving her post as an Extra correspondent, Rachel had time to go on a trip to Europe in September, which led to a “resetting moment that I didn’t even know I needed.”

“I really had one of those moments where I felt baptized in the water,” she recalled of the vacation. “I let go of so many things.”

Rachel said that there was “a lot of change” in her life at the time, including how she and Bryan were “working on having a kid.” 

“Sometimes, that’s not as easy as you’d think,” the Real Love author shared. “You think, ‘OK, when I’m ready, I’m ready. It’ll happen.’ And then it doesn’t, so that’s like been a little bit of a struggle, too.”

Rachel added, “I’m ready for a restart button for 2024.”