Toke Makinwa a few hours ago, gave an update to her previous write up about Mr Bolaji the alleged deadbeat father who is in the habit of beating up his wife at any given opportunity and in front of their children.
According to Toke Makinwa, Mr Bolaji called her and has been apologizing, saying he saw her post and that he is sorry. He also said that he would make up the time to come to see Toke, but she warned him not to bother, as he has already broken his previous promise not to hit his wife again, so should not come near her anymore.
She said Mr Bolaji whose identity she has refused to reveal, but since her post, Mr Boloji has been sending messages saying he is sorry and she does not understand why Mr Bolaji is suddenly feeling remorseful for his actions…
Toke Makinwa thanking his friends and the Police on how they have reacted to the Mr Bolaji story, shared a part two of what has happened since the post went public.
She wrote this:
“I spent the better part of yesterday dealing with this situation, the purpose of my post yesterday was to send a message not only to Mr Bolaji but anyone guilty of violating another human being. I commend the young man for being brave enough to admit he was wrong, I spoke to him myself and in his words; he didn’t know what came over him.
This angered me so much but I’m not here to judge him, he needs all the counseling he can get. I am tired of the blame game, the devil, state of the country, ignorance, I know things are tough out there but pls don’t let frustration make you turn another human being to your punching bag. Even though he has since apologized, the law is already involved. I don’t wish ill on him but you gotta stand up and be counted. The young lady is set to meet @opetodolapo later today and it’ll be on record should this repeat itself again.
A big thank you to @theorangenerd for really stepping up yesterday, he’s offered the young lady a phone since hers was smashed in the process, @donjazzy I know you’ll kill me for this but I don’t know how you give so much of yourself without getting burnt out, Thank you for the financial assistance. @elizabeth_elohor thank you for stepping in too.
I feel like we have so many seminars and workshops targeted at women and how we should behave, think, etc but who is raising the boys? Abuse is a vicious cycle, in most cases people who have been victims of abuse go on to inflict same if they don’t get help.
Beating the mother of your child as your daughter watches on is so wrong, so wrong and my heart aches for all the people involved. We are hard on our girls but love on our boys and it’s causing more harm than good. Some people don’t even see abuse as wrong, we can do better people, speaking out is key. Shame the shame culture, no one will speak out for you when you are 6ft under, who will raise the kids you are trying to protect if you die? I did not reveal his identity on here but I have shared with the law, I sincerely hope he has learnt his lesson and this will never repeat itself again too”